Why ‘You Can’t Do It’ is the worst thing to tell a child

Why “You Can’t Do It” is the worst thing to tell a child

It is proven, a wish does not come true; dreams come true. I have been a dreamer since childhood. Most of us are. How many of us live with that dream to make it successful? There is no secret recipe to achieve your goal.

My dreams have been shattered several times. I get things only when my enthusiasm or eagerness for those things vanishes completely. When I get it, I don’t feel excited to have it. I become numb, thoughtless and expressionless. One of my first dreams closest to my heart was to become a doctor. As a child, I was focused on my studies. I knew I had to become a doctor. There was no other profession meant for me. But when the time came, when I cleared my 12th, things started falling apart. Circumstances around me became unsupportive. There was nobody to support my dreams, even for 1%. I admit, I was not the brightest of kids, but I have always been a hard worker, and I feel that with hard work, nothing is impossible to achieve. You can’t do it. I heard these words repeatedly, and I am not too fond of them. If you ask me from the bottom of my heart, actually I hate it.

I always want to say and hear ‘You Can’. We all ‘Can Do’ anything we want to. All you need is a purpose, faith and little support. Let me elaborate on each of these alphabets.

Confidence – Have confidence in yourself. Nothing can stop you.
Ace – Be a champion, ace it, be an achiever
Nourish – Nourish your dream every day, by small activities.

Discipline – Dedication, determination and, discipline are the three best words to stay focused.
Optimistic – Always be positive in every circumstance, be observant of what is happening around you and be open-minded. Let ideas flow. Ideas can take you to places.

These are my chosen words. Yours can be different, but the essence remains the same. You need to have the will to do what matters the most to you.

Dreams are not easy to achieve. It would be best if you are fearless while pursuing it, have the courage to triumph over every challenge that comes on the way.

The way you converse with your child can be life-changing. Never use negative words to describe a child and any name that evokes fear, anger, and frustration. A child internalizes whatever they see their parents do. You realize it only when you grow up and see how profound affect parents had on your belief system, your thought process, and your behaviour. It shapes her/his destiny.

Words are mighty, and when used by loved ones, it becomes a powerful weapon. It can make or break your heart. It can make or break your destiny. Words are a powerful force; it emanates vibrations and can create a reality around us. Nobody else can decide what you can do. Only YOU CAN. Never Stop Dreaming BIG.